Tomorrow we will have our long-awaited-for baby and I keep trying to imagine who it will look like – my sister, my husband or me?
Of course we won’t be able to see who it looks like until it is much bigger. And some people will tell us that it looks like itself and that we shouldn’t try to make it look like anyone else.
But I’ve always loved making genetic links between family members. It’s something to do with a sense of belonging or clan, and understanding where someone comes from.
For instance – much to my mother’s consternation – two of her four grandchildren have her eyebrows which stick straight out rather than lie flat on her brow. They are very distinctive and obviously very dominant! (thank goodness I inherited eyebrows from my father which lie down flat and have a lovely shape, if I do say so myself).
And my aunty is deaf in one ear, as am I although no one else has this special feature in our family.
So given this baby is conceived from my sister’s eggs, what will she/he be like? Is there a chance it too will be deaf in one ear like its genetic aunty (me) who is actually its mother?
Will it have my sister’s beautiful freckles and green eyes or will it have my colouring which is darker hair with blue eyes and white skin prone to moles? Will it be tall and gangly like its Dad, with curly brown/red hair? Or will it be a throw back to someone else distantly related?
If we had conceived our baby with help from someone unrelated, I would still be having these thoughts. Traits are fascinating and are a unique part of everyone and something to be noted/proud of/mulled over/celebrated.
Whatever, this baby has been born out of much love and is/will be truly treasured – and even if it inherits its grandmother’s unfortunate eyebrows (sorry Mum!) it will be beautifully fair of face in our eyes.