Blog about having premature ovarian failure and trying donor IVF with my sister's eggs

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Reluctant career woman

At the risk of sounding like a spoiled brat; I am a reluctant but fairly successful career woman because of my infertility.

While most of my friends have dropped out of the workforce to become mothers, I have continued on with my career.

By virtue of the extra years I have spent working, I have made my way to levels that women who take time out to have babies don’t generally get to.

I know every job has its stresses but I’ve found the higher you go, the more stressful it is. So how do you ever reverse this and go back to a job with less responsibility and stress? Employers are generally suspicious if you say you want a less challenging job.

If you’re a working mum you can downsize by telling everyone you are going part-time, leaving, or taking a less demanding job as you ‘want to spend more time with your family’. It’s harder to explain this away if you don’t have kids. And in future if you decide to beef up your career again, temporarily ‘dropping out’ can look weird on your CV if you are childless whereas those with children can put breaks or downsizing their career down to family commitments.

My friends with children who are lucky enough to be full-time mums say they wish they did my job, while I say I wish I did theirs. I have been fortunate to have had many opportunities that many people don’t get in my career (this is where I feel like an ungrateful brat). But every day wish I could change my job to being a mum.

Does anyone else ever feel like this?