Blog about having premature ovarian failure and trying donor IVF with my sister's eggs

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That was then; this is now

My acupuncturist and chinese doctor said to me today that if you compared a 25 year old now to one of a few generations ago, his/her egg or sperm count would be much lower. He says there are many things contributing to the decline, most notably chemicals. Some of these chemicals are heightened levels of antibiotics and contraceptives peed out by humans which eventually discharge into our oceans and affect phytoplankton and eventually our food chain. Others are chemicals we directly ingest through everyday living.

He also said there is a theory that we have reached a point of overpopulation, and in the absence of many diseases, infertility is a way for the human race to keep growth in check.

It will be interesting to see what the state of play is in another two generations’ time when my baby niece is 25.  And what options she will have if she wants to try for children. If she hasn’t met Mr or Mrs Right by her late 20s; will she put some eggs on ice? Or will she go ahead and have a baby with someone she isn’t in love with?

Hopefully she will have many many options.

In the meantime, my sister and I had our scans this morning and things are looking promising. My womb lining is fattening up nicely and she has 11 follicles which appear to be maturing. How satisfying is that, given that when I tried to coax my ovaries into producing eggs, they yielded nothing?

We are so pleased. Now we have to continue with the drugs (Gonal F for sis and oestradial for me) to keep things going. Plus my sis is taking something to prevent her from ovulating – I think it’s called orgalutran.

We have another scan booked for Thursday which will reveal if everything is progressing – if it is; egg pick up could be this Saturday and transfer of any resulting embryos once mixed with my husband’s sperm could be Monday.

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Scenario: sister runs off with husband after donor IVF

What would we do if my sister left her partner and ran off with my husband? This is a scenario which has been playing on my brother in law’s mind since he and my sister decided to donate her eggs to my husband and I.

He is also concerned for my sister’s future fertility plus any complications which may arise from the drugs she is taking to hype up her ovaries.

I said that if my sis runs off with my husband then I’ll just run off with him and all will be fine.

Flippancy aside; it’s just one thing in a crazy minefield of stuff we’ve had to consider throughout this egg donor process. Some stuff has been truly yucky, including how would my sister feel if her children all died and we still had our children which are biologically half hers.

Or how would she feel if we conceived a child with something biologically wrong with it and we decided to abort it, or decided to go ahead with the pregnancy?

Guiding us through this weirdness has been our fabulous counsellor. She has been absolutely amazing with her help and advice. I feel so lucky to have someone like her to talk to.

I broke down in yesterday’s session as I admitted that I felt so guilty and so grateful to my sister and her husband. It overwhelms me when I think about what they are doing for us.

We then all went to lunch in the 30 degree humidity which is Melbourne at the moment and ruminated over a glass of rose.

We have our first scan on Monday so it will be fascinating to see if the Gonal F which sis is taking is encouraging her eggs to do anything and if the oestradial I am taking will thicken up my womb lining. I will keep you posted.

I will also keep my eye on my sister and husband, especially as my brother in law returns home to New Zealand tomorrow (just kidding!).